Ways to Learn to Love Yourself
This week is all about LOVE. With Valentine’s Day on Thursday it’s important to remember that YOU, yes YOU, deserve love!
LOVE can come from all different places but most importantly from within. The first step towards finding more happiness is in loving yourself. I know this all sounds really cheesy but the more time I spend on my own the more I am realizing that I need to be kinder to myself and to love myself more. This has nothing to do with being ego-centric or narcissistic. This just means that in order to be happier you need to take care of yourself and to put yourself first which means loving yourself.
How can you go about loving yourself more?
I am a people pleaser. A giver. Someone who always accommodates others. This is not a always a bad thing but it can be when giving and accommodating comes at the expense of your own happiness. I often say YES before I consider how something will affect me. I don’t put myself first and so often don’t end up meeting my own needs. Do you do this too? This is a complex problem because there is a fine line, a balance between taking care of others and being kind and making sure that you are loving yourself and doing what is best for you. Say yes when you really mean it. Consider carefully whether what you are doing will positively affect you. Don’t just say yes for the sake of saying yes.
Comparing yourself to others. This is another thing NOT to do if you are working on loving yourself more. I have to admit I often fall into the comparison trap. It can be hard not to when you are surrounded by so many successful people and with the constant bombardment of success stories on social media. Stop comparing yourself and start looking at what YOU are doing. You are successful!
Success and failure is only as you define it. I need to start looking at what I am doing and defining it as success rather than putting a negative spin on my life. This is hard as a perfectionist but something I need to change. The language that we use to tell about what we do can change the way we are perceived by others as well as how we feel about ourselves. Talking positively about yourself internally and with others can help to switch your negative mindset.
Don’t carry feelings of negativity for others. Doing so will only make you feel angry. It’s time to let things go and to move forward with positivity. By doing this you will find greater happiness and you will be loving yourself more.
Do something for yourself. Make time to do something for yourself. It can be something small like making time to grab a cup of tea or coffee, or scheduling in time to see a friend, or just to do something that you love like to go for a long run. You deserve to have a little time to yourself. Choose with intention something that will make you feel good.
Make time for positive people for the positivity carried by others can be contagious and can provide you with a refreshing perspective. Choose to be around people who help to lift you up with their attitude and outlook on life.
What are some ways to love yourself that you will be trying?